4 Reasons To Try Prostate Massage (& How To Do It)

Carrie Borzillo is an award-winning journalist and author of three books. She writes about sex/relationships for Men's Health, DAME, and canadapharmacyonline

Let's face it, when it comes to anal, most men - especially straight men - like to give, not receive. But, prostate massage, or prostate milking, in which the prostate is stimulated for sexual pleasure - either manually with fingers or through prostate massage tools - is not only a great way for a guy to achieve a different type of orgasm, but it's great for a man's sexual health as well.

"The gentle stimulation of this walnut-sized gland cleans, nourishes and strengthens the prostate gland, which acts as, among other things, a filter for all the toxins in the body that make their way into the sperm. Encouraging blood circulation around this area helps to flush out these toxins, and keep the prostate and sperm healthy," explains sex therapist and educator Dr. Ava Cadell, who explains more in her DVD, Dr. Ava's Guide to Prostate Pleasure.

Before we show you how to do it, let us tell you why you should try it...

4 Reasons To Try Prostate Massage Tonight

1. It Intensifies Orgasms:

Studies show that with prostate stimulation the size of the male orgasm can increase by 33% "Many men say they've never experienced pleasure as intensely as with sex or oral sex combined with prostate stimulation," says Dr. Cadell. "It is time to stop being squeamish about the prostate sexual gland and embrace our full orgasmic potential," says Dr. Mark Sircus, a doctor of oriental medicine and pastoral medicine and founder and creator of Natural Allopathic Medicine.

2. It Alleviates ED Symptoms:

Anything that helps with blood flow to the penis, can help with erectile dysfunction. Steve Thomson, CMO of sex toy company LELO, which makes several prostate massage toys, says, "Prolonged use of prostate massage can help alleviate symptoms of erectile dysfunction."

3. It Doesn't Mean You're Gay:

"Sexual orientation is about who you're attracted to. What kinds of sensations feel good to you is about where your nerve endings are. Gay men don't magically get born with extra nerves, and heterosexual men aren't missing any. Your sexual orientation has nothing to do with what feels good to you," says Charlie Glickman, PhD., a sexuality educator, workshop teacher, university professor, and author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners.

4. It Might Hedge Your Bet Against Prostate Cancer:

While there are no major studies that say that prostate massage prevents prostate cancer, most experts in the field say that regular prostate massage is beneficial to prostate health. "In most prostate cancer cases, it's substances in the static seminal fluid in contact with the cells that make up the walls of the glandular structures within the prostate that may foster a malignant transformation," says Thomson. What that means is that static seminal fluid sitting inside the prostate may encourage a cancerous malignancy in the cells of the prostate. "And prostate massage is the best, easiest and most pleasurable way to keep flushing those fluids through and out," adds Thomson.

Now that you're game, here's how to do it...

1. Non-Invasive Massage:

If you still think the anus is an exit only door, there are ways to stimulate the prostate without penetration. "Many of my clients are interested to know that they can stimulate the prostate without going inside the anus through the 'million dollar point,' an area sometimes called the 'taint' - that strip in between the anus and the balls. Feel around for a small indentation about the size of a pea and gently press inward. This technique alone can induce mind-blowing orgasms, by itself or accompanied by a skillful blowjob," says Dr. Ava Cadell.

2. Manual Stimulation:

If you're comfortable with penetration, you can get a helping hand from your partner. Dr. Cadell explains, "You or your partner can find the P-spot about 2 to 3 inches inside his anus, close to anterior wall of the rectum. Go very slowly, and use plenty of lubrication, as the anus itself is loaded with sensitive nerve endings, which can make the experience extra pleasurable, as long as you take your time, and communicate closely if it's a partner performing the penetration. Make sure you never poke the prostate directly, but that you gently caress it, either by moving your finger side to side, or 'milking' it with a 'come hither' motion. You can also press it gently like a doorbell."

3. Prostate Massage Tools:

"Although the prostate can be reached with fingers it's near impossible to do solo without the aid of a tool. If you have a partner to help with the massage it can be very stressful on their fingers, hands, and wrists making it difficult to maintain for long periods. Massagers not only make things easier in that regard, the vibration also gives more pleasure options than a stationary object," says sex educator Sunny Megatron, host of Sex with Sunny Megatron.

Megatron recommends prostate massages such as LELO's Loki ($169), Bruno ($169), or Hugo ($219). Hugo and Bruno both have two motors - one in the curved tip for accurate prostate stimulation and the second in the base for dual pleasure. They're hands-free with six vibration patterns.

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